If you follow on Instagram (@coffeewithkylie) you know that Joyce Meyer was in Tampa this weekend! For those of you who don’t know, Joyce is a non-denominational, Christian pastor and founder of Joyce Meyer Ministries. I grew up listening to Joyce on TV, and have heard her speak live on multiple occasions in my adult life. And let me tell you, she NEVER disappoints! I attended both Friday night and Saturday’s sessions, and as a result entered the weekend feeling so refreshed and renewed, and just filled with the Holy Spirit. And there’s no feeling quite like that!
In our time with Joyce, she talked about hope…and how biblically it is the firm belief that something good is going to happen. Our hope in God is not considered desire, but instead it is knowing that we will be blessed. And refusing to give up until we are…giving all the glory to Him in the end. It’s like the age old saying, “where the mind goes, the man follows.” If we are living in fear or meditating on failure, we are sure to fail time and time again. It’s not until we give it up to God, and fully trust in his promises, that we may find peace and receive His blessings.
With that being said…live a life you love. We were not created to simply “get by,” but to love our life, and live it to the fullest! On Friday Joyce said to get rid of the word “hate” in your vocabulary, and I clung to that piece of advice. Instead speak of what you love, and watch your life be transformed. On the same note, stop speaking words of death over yourself, your life, your family, etc. I know I’m guilty of this… You might hear me say “I have too much stomach fat,” “I’m always broken out,” “I make no money,” “I have the worst anxiety.” I guess you’ll learn a little bit about my insecurities here… But that was before! Not anymore. I am choosing to declare positivity over my life! I am on my way to a flat stomach! The Lord is blessing my finances! And so on and so on. Won’t you join me?!
Another thing Joyce said that really, really stuck with me…if you’re led by the Holy Spirit, you don’t wish, you maximize your potential. Take a second and read that over again, because it’s good. Man, oh man, is it good. People, this is permission to stop trying to be something/someone you’re not! Stop wishing you had certain talents you don’t. Because if you divert your attention from others and onto yourself, you’ll soon realize all of the talents and great qualities you already possess. And you’re far more likely to create a life you love if you’re focused on maximizing your strengths, not dwelling on your weaknesses.
After just that little taste, are you surprised my weekend was great? Al and I left with smiling faces and hopeful hearts, ready to really enjoy the rest of the weekend, and the down time we have together! Which means we ate at some of our favorite restaurants, obviously binged watched a little Scandal, and finally…we napped (I know, we sound really exciting…). There’s nothing wrong with taking it slow every once and a while!
For my Tampa people…here’s the scoop on the restaurants.
First off, Bartaco… It’s seriously our new obsession. It’s basically a bunch of mini plates that you order multiple of to either share with the table, or down yourself. Alex and I obviously get our own stuff and down it all. I’m a pretty plain eater (and a creature of habit) so I always opt for two cheese quesadillas (which have like taco seasoning or something in them…I don’t know but it’s great) and a bowl of the grilled corn, off the cob (which is mixed with another kind of taco seasoning AND feta…I just rocked your world). I like to peel open my quesadillas and split the corn between the two, but that’s just me. Alex is far more adventurous and prefers the portobello and duck tacos. Sounds terrifying to me but he loves it. This weekend we did something special and concluded our meal with the key lime pie in a jar… Key lime pie is my weakness. It was amazing.
And then there’s Cask…Their everyday menu is referred to as “comfort cuisine” so imagine unique, semi-southern dishes and ample use of the frier. This puts me outside of my comfort zone a bit, but their brunch is where it’s at! My favorite dish is the three fluffy pancakes with maple syrup and fruit on top (a classic), but they’ve got biscuits and gravy, chicken and waffles, and many other meal options. Not to mention bottomless mimosas, which you get for $20 until 4pm even if you want to drink, leave, then head back and drink again… It’s a one time fee! Talk about Sunday Funday…
Hope y’all enjoyed your weekend as well!
Outfit 1: Top – H&M old; Jeans – American Eagle old; Sandals – Wet Seal
Outfit 2: Dress – Wet Seal
A Christian girl’s thoughts on a rainy day…
If you keep up with the blog, then you may have read my post about financial balance… Well, this one kind of piggy backs off of that, but not in the way you might think. I’m going to be really real with y’all. Now, I always strive to be real. But this time, I mean really real.
I don’t make a lot of money. You probably could have guessed that by all my “ballin’ on a budget” talk. However, in saying this, I want to acknowledge that I’m extremely blessed. When I say “I don’t make a lot of money,” I’ll be honest…I’m comparing myself… To my friends, peers, acquaintances. I’m on the lower end of the financial spectrum compared to these people, but I know that I’m far more fortunate than A LOT of others. Do not think I am trying to disregard that. But still, it is an insecurity of mine. I’m just trying to be honest.
Besides being blessed with a full-time job (regardless of what my industry pays), I am also blessed to have people who love me, and yes, who help me out financially. Again, yes, I’m 24 and I don’t survive on my own. And let me tell you, I am cringing writing this. I am so uncomfortable that my cheeks are literally red with embarrassment. What is wrong with me…
Let me first speak to my boyfriend, Alex. The man is a saint. I have never known such unconditional love in someone who did not put me on this earth. He makes me feel beautiful, respected, intelligent, important, valued, every single day of my life. And on top of that, he is my provider. I kind of struggle with the concept of a man covering nearly all of my finances, if I’m being honest. Yet, he does it every day, without a second thought. What did I do to deserve him? I’m a lucky girl.
And then, there are my parents. My sweet, sweet parents. Who not only have put up with me for 24+ years, but continue to be an incredible support system as well. Since Alex is perfectly able to provide for me alone, I don’t really need financial assistance from them. But still, they’ve been known to throw me a bone every once in a while. And for that, I want to acknowledge that I’m grateful.
Now, I want to write to y’all what’s on my heart…in hopes that maybe someone can relate and together we can feel less alone. Which is why I initially started talking about my finances. Because they have been so heavy on my heart lately. And it’s not so much the thought that I don’t have money, but more so the shame that I can’t provide.
And then, last Sunday in church, the Lord spoke to me loud and clear. Our pastor started with a few passages from Ephesians 5…
“Wives, submit to your husbands as you do the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
I love this verse, for many reasons, but that day I got something out of it that I hadn’t before. My pastor kindly reminded me of a few very important things: We all have different roles in the Kingdom of God, and who you are matters in the body of Christ.
Just because I cannot provide financially, does not mean I do not matter or serve my own purpose. And as I sat in the renovated warehouse that is our church, I heard so clearly what my heart was yearning for… You CAN HAVE PEACE over your finances. You are not called to be the provider, but your purpose is EQUALLY as important.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve opened up to Alex, feeling insecure that I can’t take care of myself, like, on my own. And although I know he is more than comfortable being my provider, I can’t kick that feeling of wishing I contributed. But God spoke to me on Sunday…and He told me I do. He told me that my puzzle piece, my purpose, my unique contribution is just as important…in my relationship with Alex and in this world.
And because of that, I will continue to work… both on my career, and on myself. I will continue to ask my God to mold my heart into one that resembles His, and to strengthen the unique skills he has blessed me with. To make clear to me my purpose, and the areas in life that I am needed…the ways in which I can provide.
So here I am, dying to share this message with you. Dying to spread His love and, y’all, His TRUTH! Because that’s what it is, the truth! There is nothing I am more sure of in this world. If you’re feeling inadequate, don’t. Those thoughts of self-consciousness and insecurity are not from our Father. You are made whole through the love of Jesus, and created uniquely in His perfect image. What you bring to the table completes the body of Christ.
“Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. Now if the foot should say ‘because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. And if the ear should say, ‘because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,’ it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.” – 1 Corinthians 12:12-27
If we all had the same purpose, what a boring world this would be. It is time that we embrace our own strengths and purposes. I thank God for who I am, and vow to glorify him in all that I do.