A Christian girl’s thoughts on a rainy day…
If you keep up with the blog, then you may have read my post about financial balance… Well, this one kind of piggy backs off of that, but not in the way you might think. I’m going to be really real with y’all. Now, I always strive to be real. But this time, I mean really real.
I don’t make a lot of money. You probably could have guessed that by all my “ballin’ on a budget” talk. However, in saying this, I want to acknowledge that I’m extremely blessed. When I say “I don’t make a lot of money,” I’ll be honest…I’m comparing myself… To my friends, peers, acquaintances. I’m on the lower end of the financial spectrum compared to these people, but I know that I’m far more fortunate than A LOT of others. Do not think I am trying to disregard that. But still, it is an insecurity of mine. I’m just trying to be honest.
Besides being blessed with a full-time job (regardless of what my industry pays), I am also blessed to have people who love me, and yes, who help me out financially. Again, yes, I’m 24 and I don’t survive on my own. And let me tell you, I am cringing writing this. I am so uncomfortable that my cheeks are literally red with embarrassment. What is wrong with me…
Let me first speak to my boyfriend, Alex. The man is a saint. I have never known such unconditional love in someone who did not put me on this earth. He makes me feel beautiful, respected, intelligent, important, valued, every single day of my life. And on top of that, he is my provider. I kind of struggle with the concept of a man covering nearly all of my finances, if I’m being honest. Yet, he does it every day, without a second thought. What did I do to deserve him? I’m a lucky girl.
And then, there are my parents. My sweet, sweet parents. Who not only have put up with me for 24+ years, but continue to be an incredible support system as well. Since Alex is perfectly able to provide for me alone, I don’t really need financial assistance from them. But still, they’ve been known to throw me a bone every once in a while. And for that, I want to acknowledge that I’m grateful.
Now, I want to write to y’all what’s on my heart…in hopes that maybe someone can relate and together we can feel less alone. Which is why I initially started talking about my finances. Because they have been so heavy on my heart lately. And it’s not so much the thought that I don’t have money, but more so the shame that I can’t provide.
And then, last Sunday in church, the Lord spoke to me loud and clear. Our pastor started with a few passages from Ephesians 5…
“Wives, submit to your husbands as you do the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
I love this verse, for many reasons, but that day I got something out of it that I hadn’t before. My pastor kindly reminded me of a few very important things: We all have different roles in the Kingdom of God, and who you are matters in the body of Christ.
Just because I cannot provide financially, does not mean I do not matter or serve my own purpose. And as I sat in the renovated warehouse that is our church, I heard so clearly what my heart was yearning for… You CAN HAVE PEACE over your finances. You are not called to be the provider, but your purpose is EQUALLY as important.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve opened up to Alex, feeling insecure that I can’t take care of myself, like, on my own. And although I know he is more than comfortable being my provider, I can’t kick that feeling of wishing I contributed. But God spoke to me on Sunday…and He told me I do. He told me that my puzzle piece, my purpose, my unique contribution is just as important…in my relationship with Alex and in this world.
And because of that, I will continue to work… both on my career, and on myself. I will continue to ask my God to mold my heart into one that resembles His, and to strengthen the unique skills he has blessed me with. To make clear to me my purpose, and the areas in life that I am needed…the ways in which I can provide.
So here I am, dying to share this message with you. Dying to spread His love and, y’all, His TRUTH! Because that’s what it is, the truth! There is nothing I am more sure of in this world. If you’re feeling inadequate, don’t. Those thoughts of self-consciousness and insecurity are not from our Father. You are made whole through the love of Jesus, and created uniquely in His perfect image. What you bring to the table completes the body of Christ.
“Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. Now if the foot should say ‘because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,’ it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. And if the ear should say, ‘because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,’ it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body. Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it.” – 1 Corinthians 12:12-27
If we all had the same purpose, what a boring world this would be. It is time that we embrace our own strengths and purposes. I thank God for who I am, and vow to glorify him in all that I do.
…What I almost named my blog.
As both a Designer, and someone who hates to make the bed, I thought this was the perfect blog name. But it stems from something deeper than my love for Pottery Barn linens and my morning laziness… The soul purpose of this blog is to embrace life’s imperfections; the casual; the messy. As we stop trying to be our own made up idea of perfect, we realize that who we are, and our crazy, messy life, is actually pretty darn beautiful.
The way I see it (and God too for that matter), you don’t have to wear designer clothes to be pretty or express yourself. You don’t have to shop at Pottery Barn (those linens were a gift…thanks mom and dad!) to make your home beautiful. You don’t have to have a flat stomach or toned legs or arms to feel comfortable in your skin. But you do have to embrace exactly who YOU are in order to find happiness in your journey and your life.
So after much deliberation and some fellow-blogger advice, Messy Bed became Coffee with Kylie (catchy right? and who doesn’t like coffee?). And the concept behind it is simple, really…I just want to be your cup of coffee. “That sounds like a cheesy pick up line,” you’re thinking, but just bear with me. A visit with me is not an all day affair. It’s a quick stop on your map…for inspiration, a sweet reminder, a little fire for your own adventure; one where you love the life that you were blessed with and recognize all of the beauty in this world!
Coffee with Kylie is my way of reflecting on, and valuing, the good in every little thing; from a hot day at the beach, to an especially tasty lunch, or an evening chasing Pokémon (yes, I’m on that band wagon). I’m just tryna keep it positive around here. I hope you can appreciate that!
Please join me as I find the beauty in the imperfect! Share your stories, bargain finds, and inspiration with me too! I’m here to learn and grow with you as much as I am to share. I am SO excited to embark on this journey together!